Death is always scary. But it gets even more frightening when you realize that you've lived a life full of regrets. Everyone goes through life making enough mistakes and resulting damage that, by the time they are old enough, they have a list of things that they would want to change if they could go back in time.
Although we cannot live our lives the way they are completely free of regrets, (let's be honest: everyone have had failed relationships, missed opportunities and poor judgment calls) - some regrets are more fundamental, greater in scope. They tend to focus not on a single moment or area, but on how life is lived.
An Australian palliative nurse, Bronnie Ware, has counseled the dying in their last days and has revealed the 5 most common regrets people have at the end of their lives.
These people have shared true words of wisdom. And thanks to them we have an opportunity to think about it while we still have time to change everything and live our lives the way we truly want.
I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me
This regret was the most common of all. Sometimes we live the way others expect us to live. But when it comes to an end we start to realize that thank to the fear of what people would think or how disappointed they will be, we have lived our one and only life not the way we wanted. All those unfulfilled dreams that we thought we had time for in the future. Think about it. If you had one month left to live would you live it the way you do it now? Or you would finally start listening to your own desires and dreams?
I wish I hadn't worked so hard
"Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived." - Dalai Lama
We spend our lives on the treadmills of work and don't even realize how much we miss before it's too late. We miss how our kids are growing up, how our parents are growing old, and spend way too much time on works we hate and way too little with our loved ones.
Of course it doesn't mean that everyone needs to quit their jobs - we all still have bills to pay, right? But what we need is to look for a job that we love, seek for healthy work/life balance, leave your work at work and never ever miss any single opportunity to spend time with people we love.
I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings
Loving another person is a precious gift, even if that same love wasn't returned. Most people regret it later that why didn’t they express their feelings to him/her. Living without their loved ones is the most painful part of their life. And they keep enduring that. People said that they were afraid of rejection but because of this fear they remained alone for lifetime. It is the fear which is the biggest barrier in their way. So the real fact is, fear less believe more! Surrounding yourself with love and allowing yourself to love is the most cherishable part of life creating beautiful memories.
I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends
It's so easy to get lost in the daily grind that we often forget to take care of our relationships with people we care about. How often do you find yourself thinking, "I need to give (fill in the name) a call" and then days, weeks, even months later you have the same thought because you never made the call?
Time goes by and we suddenly realize that the person who was so close is now a person you don't know anything about. But those true, dear people lost in the vanity of life is what people regret at the end. Friends share our joys and help us get through the tough times in life. They are what is truly important, so don't forget about them.
I wish that I had let myself be happier
Unfortunately, not many people realize that happiness is a choice. It's easy to settle for the role of victim of circumstance and use it as an excuse to not move forward in your life. We settle for mediocrity because it'a familiar and convenient. We're often just to afraid to let ourselves be happy and explore new and unknown. But being happy or not is an everyday choice of every person. So make this choice. You live only once. And it may seem like you have so much time in future to start living, but it's not true. You never know what the next day will bring. So stop being afraid of changes, stop worrying what others think of you, allow yourself to be happy, smile and appreciate all the good things and people in your life.